The Truth About Marriage

Why we got married at 20 and DON'T REGRET IT.

We met when we were 8 years old at a 4H meeting and became little friends. We grew up together a town a part. We started getting closer our senior year of high school and right after graduation began dating.

After a year we knew and were quickly engaged, married at the age of 20. Young, too young for most people. We were bombarded with questions and accusations.


“Your brains aren’t fully developed till your 25.”

“You haven’t even finished college.”

“What’s the hurry?”

“You’ve never dated anyone before, don’t rush into things.”

“You have your whole life ahead of you.”

The insinuated “This isn’t a smart decision.”

“How are you going to live?”

 “How is he going to support you?”

“Establish yourself in the work force first, get your feet under you.”

“You're just kids.”


We seemed crazy to the world, down right stupid. Young crazy, uncontrolled love. Which attracted a lot of opposition. We had no answers, just reasons. We had no plan, just a conviction.

We got married under the legal drinking age. We got married still in college. We got married with our lives ahead of us. We got married young.



The truth about getting married young is it’s hard.


It is loving not by being loved that one comes closest the soul of another

There is no way around that. It’s not easy to get married when everyone and their mother thinks it’s a bad idea, when the culture we live in gets married much later, when you don’t have a lot of experience.

It’s hard because you navigate the world of marriage at the same time your trying to figure out taxes, insurance, renting, job hunting, food making, home decorating… you name it.


I was clueless when we got married. I knew very little. I had never rented a home, never planned meals, never filled my taxes, nor paid for my own insurance. I didn’t have any of that “life” experience. I just new one thing—I loved B and I wanted to learn all of it together.


It’s definitely been a-learn-as-you-go kind of thing. It’s surely an adventure, but every hour has been worth it. Every day that I have spent as B’s wife has been worth any struggle we’ve met.


I’m incredibly blessed and extremely fortunate and I consider it a great honor that we got married so young, that we were able to begin our lives together in our 20s.


The truth about marrying young is that it’s hard, but it’s so worth it.

No one tells you that, they just say don’t do it. Wait. Why they hurry?


But if you know, if it’s right, I ask WHY WAIT?


Why would you want to wait to start your life together? Noting, nothing is more important, not money, not security, not even education.


Granted all of those things are good, but I don’t think they should trump your future spouse, I don’t think they should ever trump the one you love.


You don’t have to wait. You can do it. It’s possible. The things no one told us.

If you are young and considering marriage, pray about it. If it’s what you feel is right, don’t let the fears of this world control your decision. Seek the Lord and He will guide you.


Be brave.

Know that when you look back on your life, you fought for every moment with the one standing beside you.


Marrying young is hard, but marriage was never meant to be easy, just worth it.


{A R K I N T H E D E S E R T}



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